Selecting a wedding officiant is more important than deciding on flowers, food, dresses, music and the photographer, as this is the legal and ceremonial aspect of the wedding . I consider it a privilege to collaborate with couples as they plan their wedding ceremonies. Whether the ceremony is for an intimate group or a huge gathering, it is important that you feel comfortable with your officiant and confident that your ceremony is in good hands. My job is to learn your wishes, traditions, beliefs and your love story so that your ceremony is an extension of who you are.
I can help you plan a ceremony that short and simple, or a longer, more involved ceremony. You may incorporate elements from one or more faith traditions, or keep your wedding a civil affair.
Please contact me so that together we can come to know each other and discover how I can help you plan your wedding. I draw on my experience as a seminary-trained, ordained minister, a doctorate in counseling psychology, and an officiant at over 100 weddings, to design and lead a beautiful ceremony for you. I’m easy to reach by phone at 919-995-0916 or by email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Questions you need to ask:
How long have you been a minister and wedding officiant?
I was ordained as a Unity Minister on June 3, 1993. I am presently a minister at Unity Church of Raleigh.
Do you recommend that the officant be an ordained minister of a church or religious organization recognized by the state ?
I strongly recommend it to make sure it is legal. The state of North Carolina requires the officant to be ordained by a officially recognized church or religious organization unless they are a licensed public official.
Will you marry couples of different faiths?
Of course! I tailor each ceremony to reflect each couple’s own sense of spirituality and faith traditions. I also work with agnostic or atheist couples. I work with couples from all faiths and spiritual beliefs.
How about marrying couples who are gay lesbian, or transgender?
Again, of course! I have preformed many LGT marriages and couplings.
Do we have to be a member of your church?
No. You don’t need to belong to any church for me to officiate your wedding.
Do you require any pre-marital or religious class requirements?
No. I do pre-marital counseling as a part of my practice and I do recommend it, but it is not necessary.
Will you marry couples if one or both have been divorced?
Yes. I will also gladly marry couples who already have children or who are expecting a child. If you have children, you may include them as attendants, flower girls or ring bearers. There are many ways to include children in your ceremony.
Do you allow for couples to personalize their own wedding vows?
Do you allow flash photography during the ceremony?
That’s totally your call.
Do you have any restrictions as to our attire, or our bridal party’s attire?
No. You can be as traditional, modern or off-beat as you wish. It’s your wedding!
Do you provide any prayers or meal blessings during the wedding day?
I can if asked.
Do you allow any non-religious readings or music?
Absolutely. Any readings or music that is meaningful to you could be included.
What is your fee for a short, civil ceremony?
I charge $150 for a brief, civil ceremony.
What is your fee for a full ceremony?
$200 for a weekday wedding, $300-$475 for a weekend wedding. I also charge an additional $75 for attending your rehearsal. I can work with couples in difficult financial situations. A 50% nonrefundable deposit is required to secure your wedding date.
What does your fee include? An initial meeting for a hour and a half to start. It can be done through phone calls or skype if necessary. Then whatever meetings, phone calls or emails with me that is needed for us to prepare your ceremony; your customized and personalized wedding ceremony led by me; I will sign your marriage license and mail it to the County Clerk’s office within 24 hours unless we have another arrangement agreed upon.
What attire do you wear while performing a ceremony?
I usually wear a dark ministerial robe with a white sash. I can wear suit and tie if desired. I also have a light colored ceremonial robe and several less formal outfits. If you have a special theme (tropical, cowboy, vintage, Star Wars…) in mind, I can work with you on that!
Do you charge for travel to our venue?
I do not charge for any venue within 25 miles of my home. For rehearsals and weddings further than 25 miles, I charge $1 per mile. This applies to the rehearsal as well if attending your rehearsal is part of our agreement.
What are your time restrictions?
I am usually available for a two hour period of time on your wedding day.
Do you need a copy of our marriage license before the ceremony?
You will need to bring your marriage license to the wedding, and I will sign it after the ceremony. You will need to obtain yours from a county clerk’s office prior to your wedding day.
Will you be mailing it to the state after the ceremony if performed?
I will mail your marriage license to the proper county clerk’s office after your ceremony.
Can you provide any sample wording for your ceremony?
Yes. We will discuss different vow options, ring exchange options and special elements you’d like to include, such as unity candle, sand ceremony or wine ceremony etc.
Can you provide recommendations for wedding coordinators, music, photographers, and/or venues?
Yes, if asked. In fact my wife is a well known photographer, Kim Crenshaw Photography, and our place has a large studio area as well as flower gardens and grounds. It can accommodate a wedding and/or reception for up to fifty people. We do special pricing for officant/photographer/venue packages.
What is your cancellation policy
If you cancel your wedding, you forfeit your 50% deposit. If you change your wedding date and I am available on your new date, I will book your new date with an additional $50 “change date” fee. If I am not available on your new date, you will forfeit your deposit.